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9.21.22 Today’s Insights from Harvard Business Review: Can we Cut “But” from our Conversations and Emails?

9.21.22 Today’s Insights from Harvard Business Review: Can we Cut “But” from our Conversations and Emails?
Dear Students,
Here’s a little weekend self-reflection for all of us: How often during a typical day do we use the expression “but?”
While a simple word, there’s no doubt that it can evoke strong emotions. Upon hearing the word “but,” a bit of resistance very subtly – or not so subtly – starts to well up inside us. Someone’s going to disagree with what (at least a part of) I’ve said, thought or recommendedand I’ll have to deal with that.
Since many of our conversations are, in essence, some form of negotiation, writer Steven Tomlinson (PhD in Economics from Stanford University) shares suggestions below that can help everyone – ambitious international students and professionals alike – to be more effective communicators, persuaders and influencers on a daily basis.
https://hbr.org/2022/08/for-better-negotiations-cut-but-from-your-vocabulary?utm_medium=email&utm_source=newsletter_daily&utm_campaign=dailyalert_notactsubs&deliveryName=DM211967

Dr. Tomlinson’s point about approaching disagreement with curiosity is powerful, and his recommendation to focus on “what comes before the ‘but'” is equally valuable. For example, have you ever caught yourself writing “but” in an email to peers, colleagues or coworkers? Instead, why not rewrite your sentence so as to begin, instead, with “While” or “Although,” eliminating the use of the sensitive term “but” and its associated emotional response.)
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